Tantra isn’t about doing more — it’s about feeling more. If you’re looking for tantra positions because you want deeper intimacy (and less autopilot), these three are simple, repeatable, and genuinely calming.
The “2-minute reset” before any position
Sit facing each other. No talking for a moment. One hand on the shoulder or thigh. Three slow breaths together. The goal is to switch the nervous system from “busy day” to “present body”.
Reference (eyes + breath)
Start by looking into each other’s eyes and synchronizing your breathing — it’s a core tantra entry point.
1) Yab Yum position (the iconic tantric sex position)
The yab yum position is famous because it forces closeness: you can’t rush without noticing it. It’s a natural setup for eye contact, breath, and slow micro-movement.
How to do it (soft version)
One partner sits comfortably, spine tall, shoulders relaxed.
The other sits facing them on their lap, arms around shoulders.
Pause for 3 slow synchronized breaths.
Then: tiny movements (or none — kissing and touch can be enough).
This one is great when you want a cocoon feeling: lots of contact, slow pace, and easy breath syncing. Use pillows for comfort, stay close, and let the breath set the tempo.
Spoon is perfect when you want closeness without effort. It naturally slows you down and keeps the body relaxed — which is the whole point of tantra positions.
A discreet Paris note (anchor)
In the dating world, some people describe this slower, attentive vibe as something you’ll sometimes see in Russian escort girls in Paris — not as a rule, just as an energy: pace, presence, warmth.
Mini FAQ: tantra positions
What’s the best tantric sex position to start with?
Yab Yum. It naturally slows you down and builds eye contact + breath + closeness.
Do tantric sex positions require penetration?
No. Many tantra practices focus on breath, gaze, touch, and presence first.
How long should we stay in one position?
Longer than usual. Start with 1–2 minutes of breathing, then micro-movement. Pauses are part of the practice.
